Here's how the Behavior Revolution Program breaks down.

(Feel like you’re missing something? This outlines the content of the Behavior Revolution Program in detail. Click here to start with the Program information page.)

Who is this child!?!?

Each child is unique, and understanding who your child is — the biological factors that impact their behavior, their individual needs, and what helps them feel safe — will help you understand why they behave the way they do.

In module one, you’re going to learn about:

  • The Neurobehavioral Model – We will examine the neurobehavioral model and how to use a brain-based lens versus a behavior-based lens to determine appropriate responses to your child’s behavior.
  • Your Child’s Needs – As humans, we all have needs, from physical to mental to emotional and beyond. We’ll discuss human needs to help you determine when behavior is due to unmet needs.
  • Safe vs. Unsafe – Feelings of safety don’t just come from a lack of threat or danger. You can be free of threat and still feel unsafe. We’ll discuss this in detail, including the relationship between safety and behavior.
  • Trauma – Traumatic experiences change the brain and play a role in behavior, but people do not only experience trauma when exposed to war, violence, or abuse. The only person who knows whether something was traumatic is the person who experienced it.

How do I get myself together so I can help my child?

Psst! Here’s a secret! Your behavior shapes how your child behaves. And your thoughts shape your behavior, so it’s important to be aware of your thoughts and know how to change them so you can shift from reacting to your child to helping your child.

In the second module, you’re going to learn:

  • There’s Always Struggle – There is always struggle. Knowing and accepting this builds resilience and shapes your response when challenging situations arise.
  • The Neutrality of Circumstances – Every event is neutral. While we may have clear and strong emotions about certain events, the events themselves are neutral. WE attach our feelings to those events. You don’t have to.
  • The Stories We Tell Ourselves – When something happens, it’s natural to to create a narrative that explains why. We can change the stories we tell ourselves, however, and it’s important to exercise that control.
  • Getting & Maintaining Calm – The behavior of parents and caregivers greatly influences the behavior of their children, not to mention the behavior of everyone around us. If we can remain calm, our children can borrow our calm.

Why the heck does my child act this way?!?

When your child loses it, it can be hard to see their behavior for what it is. It’s difficult to avoid interpreting their behavior as manipulative, intentional, or personal when, in reality it is much more likely to be a biological stress response to a situation where their needs are not being met, they feel unsafe, or they aren’t able to meet expectations.

In the third module, you’re going to learn about:

  • The Autonomic Nervous System – Learn what happens as your body shifts from feeling safe, connected, and calm to feeling threatened, which can result in needing to fight or escape, or worse, to freeze or shutdown.
  • Rumble Rage Cycle – When kids start getting dysregulated, they have trouble processing information. You can help them calm down more quickly when you understand which strategies will actually help.
  • Stress & The Perception of Safety – The body’s ability to detect cues of threat in the environment is called neuroception. Kids can’t feel calm and connected if they don’t feel safe. Learn which cues can trigger these feelings, and use our Behavior Wheel to interpret what you are seeing.
  • Bottom-Up vs. Top-Down Behavior – Some kids use their behavior in calculated ways to get something they want. Other kids cannot help how they react to what is happening. Learn how to tell the difference.

You mean the way I act impacts how my child acts?

At this point in the course, you will have a greater understanding of your child and yourself, and, in particular, how your behavior drives your child’s behavior. Now we’re going to provide some strategies for connecting with your child and helping them do what needs to be done.

In module four, you’re going to learn about:

  • Co-Regulation or Co-Escalation – It’s hard to stay calm when your child is getting upset, but if you can stay calm, your child will calm down more quickly. Plus you will be showing them how to be calm during the storm.
  • Language and Communication – The way you interact with your child can help them understand what you want, or it can cause confusion. Learn simple strategies for communicating clearly & compassionately.
  • Consequences and Discipline – When a child is afraid that you will punish them, they learn to fear your reaction instead of thinking about the real-world consequences of their actions.
  • Time-In / Special Time – If children only hear about what they are doing wrong, they can start to think they are unlovable. We all need time when we can relax, take time to enjoy each other, and feel truly seen.

Let's help your child get regulated!

Some kids have a harder time with self-regulation. Changing your behavior will help them, but they also need to learn how to take charge of their own bodies. Helping your children understand what is going on in their bodies, how they are feeling and what it means, in addition to learning calm-down strategies uniquely selected for them, will help them take control so they can learn to do hard things. 

In the fifth module, you’ll learn about:

  • Social Emotional Learning – Developing emotional awareness is a multi-step process. Using our Feelings Wheel, you can help your child through the process of learning how to stay regulated when they are upset.
  • How does your body feel? – Kids with ADHD and autism often don’t know how their bodies are feeling. Help them identify these sensations so they can learn how they experience their emotions.
  • Co-Regulation – When you connect with your child and help them learn to adjust their actions based on your responses, they are learning how to self-regulate. Kids learn self-regulation through co-regulation.
  • Self-Regulation Strategies – What helps one child calm down may be very different from what helps another. By experimenting with different strategies you can help your child figure out what will work for them.

Now, empower your child and watch them thrive!

The best part? Now you can help your child along the road to independence and self-actualization. How can you help them learn to problem solve with resilience in the face of adversity? In this last module, we’ll show you how!

In module six, you’re going to learn:

  • Competence Leads to Independence – If you want your kids to grow up to be independent as adults, they will have to learn how to take on challenges so they can develop a sense of themselves as competent.
  • Growth Mindset – We all have the capacity to learn new things and take on new challenges. Adopting a growth mindset will help your child do the hard work necessary to learn new skills.
  • Collaborative & Proactive Solutions – You might think you understand why your child is having a hard time, but you might be wrong! Involve them in coming up with the solutions so they can learn how to do it for themselves.
  • Supportive Parenting for Anxious Children – When you have an anxious kid, it’s natural to accommodate. But that can lead your kids to think their fears are reasonable. Learn how to empower your child to face their fears.


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The Behavior Revolution system and the course were inspired by the neurodiversity-friendly research and/or work of Stephen Porges, Ph.D., Ross Greene, Ph.D., Mona Delahooke, Ph.D., Marc Brackett, OTD, and Kelly Mahler OTR/L.

Disclaimer: The Behavior Revolution aims to support parents and kids navigating challenging behavior, ADHD, and autism, and provides tools to assist you in decoding behavior and helping your child build their emotional intelligence and regulate. While our content is backed by scientific research, we are not mental health professionals. We cannot guarantee behavioral outcomes of any kind. If you ever feel you or your child needs added mental health support, we encourage you to contact your physician or therapist for professional advice.